Did you say you can’t?
It is so easy to think or say “I can’t….”
Over and over again, we tell ourselves so many things without realizing it.
I can’t wake up early for Fajr
I can’t cook a meal
I can’t help my child with their homework
I can’t afford to pay for “the full cup” or whatever program on your list
And sometimes you even have a reason added so it would sound like…
I really want to join #FajrClub but I can’t because I am not a morning person.
Most of the time, the truth isn’t that you can’t, it is that you won’t.
I won’t wake up early for Fajr
I won’t cook a meal right now
I won’t help my child with their homework
I won’t afford to pay for the full cup
I really want to join Fajr Club but I won’t because I am not a morning person.
The thing is when we say we “can’t” do something, we sound like we are a victim and it is comfortable but when we say we won’t then it shows our choice in the matter.
And this is not to say that there are not things that we actually cannot do. I mean maybe you genuinely can’t afford something at the moment…
But until you start to take note of this difference, you would not know. And your brain will believe whatever you tell it.
So when you find yourself saying you can’t do something, change “can’t” to “won’t” and see if it still holds true.
And don’t think it makes you lazy, it just makes you honest and most days, honesty is the cheapest thing you can afford.